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The bottom line is:

Qui tacet consentire videtur
He who keeps silent is assumed to consent; silence gives consent.

Did Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher bully the miners during the 80s? Was it robust management or clear leadership? Why is it permissible to print Prime Minister Gordon Brown as a bully in the 21st Century? Who has never been bullied? Who among us signed up to a job thinking it was a job/school/university of a lifetime only to be disappointed after a couple of months for the main leader/manager needs psychiatric treatment?

According to DMX, in most walks of life we can choose to live by chance or choice. Both areas lead to suffering. Is this true or are happy days definitely far away? Do you feel like you are slipping?

Unfortunately, by chance, bullies are in all spheres of life. It is as if we need them to be 100% motivationally fit. Psychologically, no stress=no response=death.
That said, we do not need to be overly stressed to prove that we need our basic provisions out of life. Further, bullying cannot legally be proven until the recipient objects to their treatment. For each recipient the goal posts are different. Sometimes out of shock, for reasons only known to ourselves, we keep quiet when we are being bullied (because it may damage our financial prospects), or worse remain quiet when a colleague is being bullied (because we are glad we are not the one in the firing line getting our ass whooped).

Regardless of our stance, we should develop enough self-integrity to read the climate signals of bullying. You have the choice to ensure duty of care for ourselves and others by:

recognising when important information is being withheld to complete a task
recognising we have been assigned a task to keep us ungainfully distracted
recognising that we have been given unrealistic deadlines to meet
recognising when the bully is denouncing or being disrespectful
recognising that the bully expects you to continuously behave in a super human way

recognising that the aim of bullying is to undermine an individuals confidence
recognising that your learning has become impaired
recognising that bullies are often individuals who are overloaded with whatever there preoccupation is in life and are often stressed out(check out their demeanor)

recognising they generally bully a number of people (including family)
recognising that the bully had a disturbing upbringing
recognising that the bully is usually the biggest bull s***t*r on this planet
recognising that the bully is a ‘billy no mates’ they do not have any real friends even if they claim that they have
recognise that your days routine is totally geared towards the bullys approval
recognising that the bully has a habit of constantly seeking new initiatives
recognising that the bully is constantly changing their minds

To counteract a hostile environment, coach one another by:
ensuring on a regular basis that we are happily engaged with whatever our preoccupation is (has to be a legitimate activity)
ensure we feel fully involved (does not require constant talking)
share goals that can be attained
strive for excellence at all costs
be realistic and know that we do fail from time to time, depending on the degree of failure expect to be reprimanded in a just way

If you happen to meet these people at work/school etc, it is your choice to stay associated with them or exit to preserve the little sanity you have left.
Whatever you decide do not remain silent and suffer for you will only slip into trouble.



I had to add this classic from the 80s for those who feel bullied in their relationships: